Have you heard the latest?! The average New York City wedding is $50,000. $50,000!!! That’s DOLLARS, not pesos.
Are you kidding me?! That’s what I have to work with?! Hahahahahaha…..Yea, RIGHT!
So Andrew and I have been engaged for 7 whole months now and what a LONG journey it has been! (And continues being)
Honestly I feel like it will never get here! Those that are married say, “Don’t worry Cristina, it will get here faster than you know!”, but for those of us that are waiting and counting down the days to enter into this great Vocation, IT FEELS LIKE IT TAKES FOREVER. At times I feel like a prisoner counting down the days until she is released. I realize that there is no comparison, but I do know that in my vocation I will find true freedom from my past, no longer being who I am and was, but will take on a NEW identity. I will be totally and completely Andrew’s and he will be mine. We shall become ONE!
*SIGH!* I realize that I have a lifetime of healing to do (We all do, really) because my pass still haunts me today (See Psalm 51:3) but through my vocation, the Lord will bring through this healing. From my wedding day on, I will no longer go alone but with a life-long companion whose job is to lay down his life daily for me!
So back to weddings and New York City. Having a wedding in NYC isn’t easy and weddings average here from about $30,000- 70,000!!!
THIS IS NUTS! I could pay off my student loans with that kind of money!
I have so much to vent about with my experience these past 7months in reference to the superficiality and vanity that I have encountered in planning our wedding! (Remember, Andrew and I are doing ALL of this ourselves!)
So Andrew and I sat down to talk about our PRIORITIES and to budget everything. Above all, we desire a simple yet fun wedding. Nothing overly fancy or expensive….we couldn’t even afford that! We came up with a budget of $10,000. Thats TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS. (Go back to that last link really quick and look at what they said was the cheapest wedding budget!)
As Catholics, we realized that our priority is and SHOULD BE the Sacrament and the detail to our mass (the cultural-catholic traditions, the readings, the sacred music, the celebrating priests, etc)
The rest doesn’t matter!!! (But, of course it does, right?!)
At our engagement time, I promised the Lord that would not be a bridezilla!
Sadly, I must admit that I had one moment of a near-breakdown. Let’s just say there were unneeded tears and I even became a bit snappy towards Andrew in reference to our rehearsal dinner…. but Andrew slapped me into reality. (not literally, of course)
The Lord constantly reminds me of what my heart truly desires….to enter into my vocation and into this Sacrament! As much as I have this “dream wedding” in mind, my real DREAM wedding is being married to Andrew!
What do you guys think? Any suggestions or words-of-wisdom? Please let us know what you think!